Founded by the wonderful Jacqueline Hollows, Beyond Recovery is a fast growing social enterprise making a proven difference to people with repeat offending behaviour, complex mental health issues and drug and alcohol problems who are involved in the criminal justice system.
In this special episode to coincide with Mental Health Awareness Week Alan, Derrick and the wisdom entrepreneurs discuss what mental health means to them. They explore the notion that mental wellbeing is something that is innate in us all, but we often look elsewhere for answers. In truth, mental wellbeing always resides in us all, and no matter where or who we are, we are only ever one thought away from it.
This video by Anna shows beautifully how we all innocently make assumptions about our lives, our circumstances and ourselves. By being curious about these assumptions, we open up space to see different possibilities which in turn can change everything.
This conversation was potentially an awkward one, but one that we felt to be important. We explored how we are all, always living in our own separate realities and when we don’t know this, it is easy to innocently react and respond to situations and experiences in ways that are perhaps not in line with what we would choose if we knew that there was another way to look at things.
Please note that these conversations are always coming from our own experiences, interpretations and attempts to take a fresh look at things and no offence is ever meant. We welcome conversation and comments from you and thanks for watching xx
Some words from Bron shared on her social media:
So it’s been a while since I’ve shared anything in here. With the recent things going on in America following the horrific killing of George Floyd, I was left reeling a bit with the very loud focus on the fact that he was black and that Black Lives Matter.
Having experienced the very opposite with my brother, Jeremy Brooke, being a white man deliberately and brutally killed by black men, it seemed crazy to me that we are still focusing more on colour than on the actual fact that the value of life was clearly so non – existent in both cases. In my head, surely ALL lives matter and in focusing on colour, we are still perpetuating the differences, instead of looking to our shared humanity which is obviously the ultimate aim and goal for the vast majority of us?
After some settling down and being open to learning and understanding more about what is actually being said, vs what I think is being said, my experience is now different and I have more understanding and compassion for what other people are going through at the moment.
It has been astounding to me the pressure I am seeing in online circles for people to speak up and then the backlash and shaming that is happening when they don’t do it the way that some feel they should be. While it is of course important for us all to educate ourselves and to make changes in ways that help, forcing our views on others and judging people for not behaving in ways that we think they should, does not lend itself well to change. In my experience, it often leads to the complete opposite with defensiveness, fear and insecurity – things that never bring out the best in anyone.
“Everyone is doing the best they can given the thinking that looks real to them” – Sydney Banks
We all have our part to play in making this world a better, safer place for everyone for sure – no doubts that change is needed – and coming from a place of connection, compassion and curiosity is a much better place to start than fear of being judged which will only lead to more silence.
This conversation was revelatory for me (Bron) – how can it be that people find aspects of life so different? The examples we discussed here included food/eating, work, money and parenting and how it is that in some areas we struggle whereas other areas are effortless. Please leave a comment below if this sparks anything in you xx
This snippet explores how labels and personality traits are not as permanent as we think they are and how labelling ourselves and others can be limiting.
Following watching this clip, Sandrine shared her insights…
You know Bron, when at the end you say that let’s work on strategies to overcome your shyness, or your depression, or your anxiety….and that this does not always work and you feel bad for it…
While listening to this it occurred to me that these are likely not to work since they make you look even more in the direction of shyness or depression. It makes you question, oh do I still feel shy now? Do I still feel depressed? Oh here you go, depressed thoughts coming back straight away…
Where if you look more at the moments when you are not shy, when you are not depressed, (despite the fact that you believe you are always shy and depressed when you are caught in the middle of it) then your mind starts focusing on these other moments. Thank you, that was very cool to realise that.
In this final conversation for Mental Health Awareness Week 2020, we explored more deeply how understanding how the system (of being human) works, everything in our experience of life is open to change. And we reflected on how it’s impossible to describe. The best we can do is point in the direction of the innate health and well – being inside us all.
In this conversation we talked about where our answers and solutions actually come from. When we understand that the feeling we are in can be the best way to finding solutions for the problems we face, it takes so much pressure off of ourselves and gives space for new thoughts and experiences to come through.