I lost my partner of 28 years last September.
She went from being healthy to sadly missed over the course of four months. This was just over a year after I lost my mum having retired around the same time.
My partner Pat and I, were very close.
She was my best friend.
The understanding I have developed that I am not experiencing my circumstances – only ever my own thinking in the moment has been enormously helpful in adjusting to my new life.
“I am not experiencing my circumstances – only ever my own thinking in the moment”
Adjusting to my retirement without my best friend.
Adjusting to living alone.
Adjusting to finding the me I am now rather than the me I had become as part of the long term relationship.
Much of what happens to us is not what we would have chosen.
But knowing that how we experience our lives comes from our own mind and not those circumstances means we can choose to flourish rather than feel like a victim.
“we can choose to flourish rather than feel like a victim”
It makes all the difference.